“Mom, you really should get on TikTok,” my daughter, who is also my social media expert, pleaded.
Honestly, I cringed. I heard myself say, “It’s just more social media. Ugh!”
“Yea, but people need you, and they need to hear your survival stories,” she made way too much sense.
Recording my first video, I was thinking to myself that I’d be lucky if I had ten people watch it. Admittedly, my focus was on me. What if my family saw it and retaliated? What if people were mean in the comments? What if I’m ridiculed?
I sat with it. I felt all of the feelings. I allowed myself to go there.
It was only after I allowed my emotions to surface that I received clarity. This is how clarity works, after all. Anyway, there it was. Clear as day. If I could help one person not feel so alone - if one person watching me finally feels seen, heard, and understood, then it’s worth it.
I cleared my throat, adjusted my sweater, and nodded my head. I was ready.
A little while later, I received a text message from my daughter, “Posted!” I held my breath. And then it all started.
2,462,994 views later…
I have helped thousands of people come to understand:
Narcissistic abuse is real!
Child abuse doesn’t stop just because we are no longer children.
Boundaries are the way to sanity.
Healing is possible and requires a lot of self-focus.
When we aren’t healed we attract unhealed people.
Family is sometimes our worst enemy.
The survival tactics you learned in abuse won’t support you as an adult.
If you want to change your life, you must rewrite your stories. No exception
The best thing you can do for yourself is admit your trauma.
Trauma is personal. What hurts one person doesn’t phase another.
You are not your shame.
Being seen and heard on TikTok has lit a fire under me. Now, more than ever, I see the droves of hurt adults that are survivors of child abuse and how their lives are affected by it. As a result, I’ve grown a new set of vocal cords.
My voice is no longer concerned with how my words impact you. My voice is no longer silent when I see wrongdoings. I won’t stand by and watch myself, or anyone else, be mistreated. No more!
Even just a few months ago, I accepted, “Hey Beautiful” from perfect strangers. I didn’t like it, but I wouldn’t say anything. Now, I do. I’m using my voice, not in a mean or hateful way, just in a very direct fashion. People are feeling offended by my strength, my clarity, and my new posture. I don’t care. You shouldn’t care, either. You’re allowed to feel your feelings. So long as you’re not being hateful, disrespectful, or taking on a victim role, you can feel AMAZING using your voice.
My hopes for you;
That you feel seen.
That you feel heard.
That you feel understood.
That you heal your heart and mind. (not necessarily in that order)
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