It’s very natural to experience fear with new beginnings. Yet, the fear is what keeps so many from going in a new and exciting direction. I have some tips and tricks for getting you ready to pivot on your crossroads and take that next bold step. Ready?
First, you must get super clear on what it is you want. While this may seem obvious, what ends up happening is that most people focus on what they DON’T want. “I don’t want to fail;” or “I don’t want to get hurt.” While it may sound cliché, focusing on what we don’t want creates more of what we don’t want. So, make a list of what you DO and keep that list clear and concise.
Second, weigh your options. There’s no such thing as a perfect plan. Striving for a perfect outcome leads to frustration and an emotional rollercoaster. Instead, have plans A, B and C. Be satisfied with each. This way, you’re training yourself to be flexible, happy and accepting. It’s a fail proof state of mind. While you may feel a level of disappointment if plan C happens over plan A, but by managing expectations, you’ll feel a level of satisfaction and calm over feeling defeated.
Third, make a commitment. I see so many of my clients waver back and forth. One day they feel this way, the next way that. If you hand the reins over to fear, you will lose every time. Instead, accept that you’re going to feel nervous, hesitant, and maybe even anxious when trying anything new - or again - if you’ve stepped away from something for a long period of time. Saying, “Fear is normal,” will help you cope with waves of it as you move forward.
Fourth, choose a reliable and sound accountability partner. This should NOT be someone who never takes a chance and is vicariously living through your life experience instead. No, quite the contrary. Your accountability partner needs to be someone who has taken a risk and feels some sense of satisfaction around it. This way, when you’re stepping away from your goals and dreams, your partner can calmly and reasonably pull you back onto your desired new path.
Lastly, know thyself. In other words, choose a new direction that is challenging BUT NOT so overwhelming that you’ll hate the journey. Reflect on who you are, where you’ve been, why you’re “doing this thing,” and how you’ll feel every step of the way (other than the natural arising fear). By doing this, you’ll be able to beat manage yourself and stick to your ultimate goal.
Be on the lookout for Behind the Power tickets! We have an exciting lineup of speakers this year! I’ll be delivering all new material to help you become the boss of your brain, and we are offering breakout rooms to help tap into your intuition, build your wealth, and more. Can’t wait to see you there!